In the girls only party, we were surprised to see one of our friends in trousers & shirt. She always wears skirts, frocks & girly dresses only, never wears jeans/ shorts/ capris/ pyjamas or anything from pant category. She was looking pretty but you know when we get used to seeing someone in particular outfits & when that person change her/his looks, we can’t stop but comment. So, I told this girl jokingly – Ohh, how come you are wearing trousers today, as far as I know you never even wear jeans!! Her reply was – “Jeans toh gareeb log pehente hai!!” Translating to – “Poor people wear jeans” I was so shocked to hear this comment. This comment is still playing in my mind, how can people think like this??
We again met on Monday & caught up for lunch as she was having a day off. Now, this was the first time we were meeting one on one. We have always met in groups. During that catch-up I had few heart attacks literally.
I got first stroke when she asked me – “Which girl you liked the most on our girls only party??” I was like huh???? Do we even have to think about this after we make bunch of new friends?? Do we really have to select the favorite one?? I had no reply for this question.
Second stroke I got when while buying our Mexican lunch she said – “You know, I take these complimentary chopped coriander leaves, chopped onions & jalapenos in big container & use in cooking at home, sometimes I also take tooth picks from here, its free hehehehe” I was like – What the heck!!
I asked her if she wants drink, she said no but while having lunch she was like wish we would have got a bottle of water. I insisted to buy one to which she reply “No, no if you buy water with meal than only its 1$ otherwise it will be 3$” I was like that’s fine naa, we are thirsty, we need water, I will buy it, what difference does 2-3 dollars make?” Her reply – “Arey paas me hi toh toilet hai wahin se pi lungi” Translating to –I will drink from nearby toilet” OMG!!! I literally choked on my burrito that I was eating & felt so disgusted. Yes that was third heart attack & a massive one. How on earth a person can think like this?? You know she saw me making yucky face & choking on my food and said – “hehehe.. no no..I am just saying there is a toilet nearby, I will not go & drink water from there!!” I just had to ignore her comment!!
We went to buy coffee & I asked for skimmed Mocha. She was like you should drink full cream or A2 milk, it’s good for you & blah blah blah.. I honestly told her I am cutting off coffees, dairy products & stuff from my diet because of my cholesterol but just to give her company I am buying a small skimmed coffee. From that her advises started, she became my teacher, my daadi-amma or my tutor. Eat Chia seeds, eat cinnamon, eat this, eat that, drink this, drink that, go to this fitness gym, go to that gym..oh God!! Did I asked for her free advise??
And from there she reached on the topic of what formula milk she gives to her toddler. When I said that I have not heard about that, she said – “How will you know, you don’t interact with me or new mums!!!”
That was it, I had enough of her. Our thinking, our basics, our mentalities, everything are totally different. I quickly said bye to her & ran back to work. I wish I was bit quick witted to reply her to her idiotic comments. I always get replies in my mind after the topic is already over or the person is already gone.
1) I never had an idea that jeans or any other clothing item can be classified in the category of clothes for poor people and clothes for rich people. It sounds so disgusting even just thinking about this classification.
2) Who on earth thinks if that outfit is for poor people or for rich before buying it??
3) Is this the way to judge other person’s status?? May be that girl only judges people like that. But then in her eyes we all are poor!!! Because mostly everyone wears jeans only she is the odd one out. I LOVE my denim to the extent that I just cannot live without it.
4) Oh & picking up favorite new friend from a bunch, taking free coriander and onions home to make Rajma, drinking water from toilet to save just 3 dollars eeewwww.. just thinking about all this is giving me shivers, yucks!!! Oh did I mentioned the way she took 3 leftover corn chips & put in her bag??
How can a person show-off she is very high standard/status girl by never wearing jeans but do all the most idiotic stuff to save a dollar???? Such shallow thinking!!! If you are going to judge people with what they are wearing, how will you know, how they actually as a person are?? If you will only show off & pretend, how will people know who you actually are?? Isn’t it a waste of our precious life in being something else & pretending to be something else??