Coming from a joint family, I never knew what is “mine” & what is “yours”??
Everything is for US. Everything is for the family. Everyone will share & use the things when they want, there was no “Mera-Tera.” But I think I am changed now. I cannot see people using my things until & unless they have asked me before using it.
What happened yesterday is I saw my colleague who sits right next to me sipping his coffee in my mug, in my blue mug. I felt like screaming at him, doesn’t he know it’s my mug? He has seen that mug in my hand everyday still why would he use my mug?? I felt like snatching that mug from him but we all were in the boardroom at that time, I don’t know how I controlled myself 😦 So, I will go and buy new one for me now.
I have felt the same feeling when MIL gave my suitcase to BIL when he was traveling to Sydney. I was shocked to see my luggage bag when BIL landed. The bag was roughly used, some ribbons tied on it for easy recognition, some printed papers stuck on bag using sticky tapes & I was like – “It’s MY suitcase, MY dad bought it for me, no one asked me if I want to give it to BIL or not? I bought 2 Samsonite suitcases with my Dad for freaking 40,000 INR.
Nope, we don’t use that much expensive suitcases in our family, it’s just because I had to travel overseas & my Dad wanted to buy best of things for me so we bought it. I left one of them at my in-laws place thinking I will bring it next time but that doesn’t mean they have all rights to use my things without my permission or even without letting me know. BIL kept that bag with him until he was moving out & I voiced out “My Dad bought this for me after my wedding, can I take it back??” That is different thing that BIL also returned PK’s carry on luggage bag too!!
MIL wears my gold jewellery whenever she feels like or whenever she is attending any functions. She has even gone to the extent of buying her own size blouses & petticoats for all my Saris that my Mum & Dad bought for me and are lying in my wardrobe in India. How do I know all this?? I see her wearing my Saris & jeweleries in the pics which our relatives post on Facebook!!
Ok… No problem in wearing those at least someone is using it but at least inform me, at least ask me?? Was that the reason she was not letting me keep my jewellery with my Mum & kept calling me & PK at my Mum’s place to remind me to bring all jewellery with me & she came to train station to just collect it from me before we fly to Sydney?
I liked a fold-able box type sitting stool in India so I bought it here. Later, Dad said he has bought 3 more for me & will send in courier. Before Dad even couriers them, BIL managed to make its chutney by sitting on it 24 hours of week, swinging on it, eating meals on eat, doing his work on laptop on it and what not. It was just for picnic purposes and not for rough & tough use. I told him couple of times to sit on sofa, chair or bed but no.. He won’t listen and slowly the stool died!!
The problem is not in using my stuff, but using it without asking me or informing me. My stuff is not public property for Gods sake.
OK I think I am feeling better now, this whole blue mug issue is the reason for this post. I will go back to my work now. Phew!!