Relationship between me & MIL is still the same. I have no feelings left for her apart from anger and sadness.
There were two festivals last month that we celebrate.
1) Shitla Saatam. 2) Teej.
Now, we celebrate these festivals depending on moon, when is full moon & when is third day after full moon day or something like that. Usually elder ladies in the families tell the younger ones when are these festivals exactly as there are no fixed dates.
1) Shitla Satam:
1. During this festival we cook the food previous day & eat that without re-heating the next day. So, if the festival is on Tuesday, we will cook the food on Monday night and relish it on whole of Tuesday.I started following this after my wedding, I don’t know why but I feel close to my roots when I celebrate this festival.
Mum assumed that as usual MIL will tell me of this festival date, also she was busy with guests at our home so she did not get chance to speak with me.
My MIL, as always had made plans in her mind. She thought she will not inform me about the date, so that I don’t do any preparation and we don’t get to celebrate this festival, then we will have no other option apart from eating hot-same day cooked food. This would have given chance to MIL to make me feel guilty & feel bad that how inefficient I am.
Luckily, an Indian lady in PK’s office asked PK what food items are we preparing for Shitla Sataam, at that very second PK text me if I know that we have to prepare the food tonight & if I have all the veggies and stuff for that??
At first PK & I were very upset that MIL did not inform us beforehand as she usually does but then keeping all the thoughts aside we happily prepared the lunch & dinner for next day after reaching home from work. Every household prepares special sweet cookie like thick paratha & Besan ke thick parathe on this occasion, which are very hard to prepare but I somehow managed to make them same as my Mum makes in India.
Next day that is on the festival day itself we received email from FIL saying they are enjoying all the delicacies prepared by MIL. PK replied to the email & informed them about what all we have prepared and that very minute we received call from MIL – “Who told you it’s Shitla Saatam today???”
We prepared the besan ke parathe & sweet parathe, Aloo-tikki wrap for our lunch in office which can be eaten without heating, for dinner PK made some Pulav, I boiled some potatoes to make pani-puri as this can be eaten without heating too 😉
Teej is the festival when we ladies fast whole day praying for our husband’s long life & then at night we open our fast after performing pooja of Moon.
The same thing happened on Teej too. But this time my Mum knew that my MIL will not inform me so she informed me before hand. Even though I was traveling a day before Teej & we had House warming on same day as Teej, I had enough time to plan when I will apply Heena on my hands and what I will eat early morning at 4.00 AM before the Teej will start.(I had to prepare because I was traveling previous night)
On the day of Teej, MIL called PK and happily asked – “TP must have forgotten about Teej no?? She must not be fasting, she must not had applied heena on her hands, hai na???”
This question itself explained PK as well as me what’s on her mind!!
Before you all advise me, let me say I have already forgotten all this, I don’t keep all these silly things in mind, I have now crossed that phase of feeling bad & feeling unlucky and all that negative stuff. I am happy with my small family of PK & I.
I just wanted to write these incidents because I realized God is really with me. If MIL did not inform me of festival date, God sent this angel in form of PK’s colleague & we did not miss celebrating the festivals 🙂
Can I show you pics from my both festivals?? 🙂