The bed that we bought for the in-laws, was actually bought by BIL. Yes, he paid because it was to be kept in BIL’s room, after the in-laws will leave, BIL will be the one who will use it. And if he has to move out, he can take that bed along with him. As BIL is totally dependent on PK, he asked PK to accompany him to buy bed. We went & selected the bed & confirmed delivery for Saturday morning.
BIL started to stress out, he cannot even take that stress that he has to wake up early to take the bed delivery which was expected between 7.00 am to 8.30 am in morning. As soon as BIL received the call at 7.00 am from delivery guy, he started panicking, he went down stairs, showed them the way to our unit. Now imagine, with 3 delivery guys, carrying the bed & mattress, BIL had nothing to do except to open the door. That also he was not able to do without PK’s help. He called PK (who was in deep sleep) just to ask him to OPEN THE DOOR even though BIL had door keys with him!!!
PK was so tired due to his hectic work week, he was not able to open his eyes and answer the call and so he missed BIL’s call. Later, after 15 minutes PK went out and asked BIL why he called?? BIL replied “to ask you to open the door”!!!
I was like what the hell!!! You had the keys, you were not the one who has to carry bed upstairs, then why would you disturb someone who is sleeping?? You cannot even do that without PK?? he cannot see his brother sleeping?? Is it normal or I am over reacting??
We had already told BIL that we will be going for shopping for some stuff that is necessary to buy before the parents come. He does not wanted us to go, he wanted us to stay at home & help him in assembling the bed. So he started rambling that he has to go to university to do group studies & only for this subject group study was important & all that. We told him that he does not have to assemble the bed that day itself, we still have a week to do that. But BIL being BIL, he wanted his work to be finished first & so he skipped his university & started assembling the bed just to make us feel guilty that he missed his class for the bed!! He was expecting us to change our plans & help him at home.
PK went to help him for a while with which I was OK, but they both got so busy that PK did not realised the time and it was 12.30 already. Shops here close at 5.00 pm. If we get ready & reach the shopping mall, it will be 2.00 pm by the time. I was really mad at PK. Why such selfishness BIL to get your work done first? PK & I went for shopping after a small fight. Is it normal to be selfish or I am over reacting??
At night, when we were sleeping, BIL started cleaning his room carpet with vacuum cleaner, you know how much noisy it is & at night when all are sleeping & it is quiet it becomes more loud. We usually don’t vacuum our carpet when BIL is sleeping even during the day time in weekend. We wait for him to wake up & then we do the cleaning. But why BIL don’t have same courtesy for us??
Previously also, I have told him not to open and close Microwave door for thousand times when we are sleeping. He stopped doing that but stared busting his bedroom door or main door when he is going for his night shift while we are sleeping. It is disturbing to hear Dhadaam – Dhaam – Dum while sleeping or I am over reacting here as well??
Yesterday night at 10.00 pm, when we are in deep sleep after tiring weekend & tiring day at office, BIL is texting PK – “Can I eat the rice or they are for your tomorrow’s lunch?? PK replied – You may eat!! I, in anger, sent the text to BIL – “FYI-We are sleeping!!”
1 – I always cook dinner for BIL. Why this drama BIL??? Was BIL trying to say that I have not cooked his dinner, even though I have cooked for him?
2 – There was enough rice in the pan, if he was worried about our next day’s lunch, he could have gone ahead and cooked some rice for himself, what’s a big deal in that??
3 – He did ate had the dinner, I cooked another batch of rice for today’s lunch.
4 – Was BIL thinking that PK will reply to BIL’s text – “NO, don’t eat that rice, they are for tomorrow’s lunch?”
5 – Is he trying to create some problems before MIL comes here, so that he can complain??
6 – Isn’t it a basic courtesy & basic manner that when someone is sleeping we should not disturb??
7 – What kind of satisfaction he derives by disturbing PK’s sleep sometimes by texting & sometimes by calling or sometimes by banging doors??
8 – Does he think PK is 24×7 service available for him? PK cannot even take rest?? Why is BIL so so dependent on PK??
These all are just Saturday to Monday incidents, cannot explain how week days are!! Leave us alone BIL, please let your brother sleep!!
MIL, PIL, BIL want PK to help them financially, they don’t want to take any stress, any stress they are in, will be passed on to PK, PK will not be allowed to rest properly. Is this what they think about PK? PK does everything for them but if he tries to explain BIL to be independent, BIL can back answer PK rudely.
Tell me if I am over reacting on everything??